Two of my cousins were expecting this year (and so am I). They were due in February and March; I'm due in June. So, it is pretty cool that we were all preggo at the same time. It was their first pregnancy, but this is my second. We are all having girls.
I'm really disappointed that they both ended up having c-sections that were most likely completely preventable. They both live across the country from me, but we were talking and sharing throughout the pregnancies. I had tried broaching the topic of natural childbirth with them, but they were both not really interested in it. Both were induced. Both ended up having c-sections.
I know it was their choice. I know we should be happy that they and their babies are "fine" and healthy. But, I really wish they had been more open to what childbirth can really be like. I wish their experiences would have been what I know they could have been. I'm sad that our culture is still so uninformed and pro-whatever-my-doctor-says-is-the-best mentality. I'm sad that I wasn't able to help influence their births in a positive way.
I know I'll get over it. But, for now, I'm sad and wishing they weren't in so much pain recovering from a likely avoidable c-section and that they could have enjoyed a natural, amazing childbirth experience. I'm planning on a completely natural birth and exploring my options for homebirth. Maybe my experience this time around will open the door for them to considering the larger scheme of options available for them when they are next pregnant...