Jennifer - So you're about 32 weeks now. How are things going? What are your current plans?
We're still going with the home birth. I took everyone's advice on here (and my midwife's) and I only share our choice with the people who support it. I figure educating people about home birth will come later. It was too much energy to try and share my thoughts about the subject with people who were not supportive. Instead I've taken that energy and am putting it towards preparing my body for birth and practicing the hypnobirthing techniques I've learned. I'm getting really excited - we're getting so close to meeting our little guy and I'm looking forward to his birth. Thanks for checking in on me!
I have this theory..... so many people are scared of the unknown. And for many women in this country, the "unknown" is any sort of natural birth without medication.
I have friends who never explored birthing alternatives outside of the now "traditional" US hospital birth, and they are intimidated and condescending of my choice to have midwifery care. But once I realized that they feel my experience will "best" theirs and be fulfilling to me as a woman, I understand their apparent lack of support.
I avoid the topic with most of my friends as I think each birthing experience is so very personal for every woman. My intent is not to make anyone feel badly or feel as if they were robbed of any experience.... yet I fear the first two women I spoke with about my birthing plan were insulted by my choices because their own birthing experiences were not what they wanted.
I wish all of us a happy and healthy pregnancy and birth; whatever our situations.... wherever we deliver..... may we all be powerful and have amazing little ones at the end of the journey.
My MIL called me out in front of extended family at Christmas on this subject. We are having our second (my first was born very successfully at home) and yet they are still having a hard time accepting my choice of having a home birth. (What if the baby is bigger than your first, what if...you name it) I've stopped reasoning with them, they all tend to be not informed when it comes to their own bodies and want doctors to "do it for them". They will not be convinced until more women like you stick to your guns and have awesome home births. Ignore them and enjoy your home birth!
Oh, and BTW, my mom is little like me (5'2") and had a 10.5 pound boy naturally at a birthing center and got up and went home that same night. :)
I may have said the same thing to someone before researching home birth.
This might be a good opener for a discussion when you're ready to talk to those people. I just talked to one of my friends about it and at first she said "no way." But then after I gave her more and more information she is really becoming supportive. I think it's good to gently educate people instead of becoming defensive. Have a wonderful home birth!