I watched The Business of Being Born and decided a home birth is for me. With that said, I need to know what I need to do to prepare myself for the birthing process, pain, etc? Will I just know what to do? What if there is complications as the baby is coming out? Any and all info is much appreciated.
I can't, I'm sorry. I had a hospital birth. :) The Bradley classes and a doula probably saved me from a c-section---no lie. But I have almost signed the papers for a home birth for baby #2. Reading Ina May has really encouraged me to trust birth even more.
I had some bad bleeding with baby #1 after the delivery (which actually may have been caused by some standard hospital procedures). This is the one fear that I need to get over before I can start paying my deposit on the home birth midwife. I posted a questions about PPH and home birth on this forum, but so far no one has responded. Some girls did respond on a different forum, though, and they are helping me get over this fear.
Does your MW attend water births? When I was in labor at the hospital, I just thought about how wonderful it would be to take a bath (they didn't have ANY tubs). The MW I'm planning on using this time has her own birthing tubs. I think water (either in a tub or even standing in the shower) might really help you deal with the contractions at home.
But perhaps the biggest thing to influence pain is the position of the baby and your level of anxiety. If you are tense, pain will feel so much worse (just grab your arm tightly, now flex it---see how much more it hurts). Also, you will no doubt learn ways to help your baby be in an optimal position by reading your books and doing more research. For example, later on in your pregnancy, avoid reclining in a chair. Try to sit upright as much as possible, with legs "pretzel-style." I also did a lot of leaning over a birth ball just while watching TV in the evenings. Keeping baby in the best position will make sure that he/she isn't pressing on something he/she shouldn't be (which would make labor a lot longer and more painful).
I think there are some good home birth stories on here. Also, you could check out the home birth groups on babycenter.com. And there's a great Facebook page that I find encouraging (as far as resisting the urge to be induced and whatnot): https://www.facebook.com/letthebabychoose
I am planning a home birth and luckily have a very supportive husband, family & midwife.
My midwife has a doula training program which recommends some great books... her site is lifecyclescenter.org/ and you can find her reading list there.
I just started reading "birthing from within" Amazing read!
I agree completely with Teresa. This is why I haven't signed anything with my HB midwife just yet. Some days I still struggle with whether I would actually be hindered by being at home (past birth complications and family history issues weighing me down). I do think it's important to really examine where you would feel most comfortable--wherever that is. For myself, several of my close friends have had home births and are planning them for their next babies. In a way, I'd be the odd one out if I go to the hospital. But I know this isn't about other people---it's about ME. We all need to do what we think is best for ourselves. It's about YOUR best birth and no one else's.
Oh, Cheryl! I am so sorry!
I haven't gone through the pain you've experienced, but I can tell you that the women I know who have had natural labors and have also miscarried babies ALWAYS say the miscarriage was much, much more difficult. I am not sure if it's the emotional pain of it that causes the physical pain to be harder, but all I know is that they have all said it hurt so much more than their labors.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss. :( And someday, when you do get pregnant again, just know that you can still accomplish a natural birth, if that's what you still want. But if you'd feel more comfortable being in a setting where pain medications are available, should you want them, then be confident in that decision, too. Do whatever feels right to you and makes you feel safe and secure.
I think there may be a pregnancy loss group on here. Maybe some of those ladies can offer you more support than I can. I sincerely wish you the best.
Cheryl! That's awful!! I'm so sorry and praying for you during this difficult time.
My miscarriage was way more painful than my natural births and I do believe the emotions and dramatic drop in hormones contributed to my pain.