Hi y'all! I need to vent abt an incident that happened today that still has me very upset: even though im having a home birth, i still visit an obgyn practice where i get all my tests done (my midwife knows) Today, being in my 37th week, i had the strep b test appt. They do not support my decision to homebirth and i know that.
But today, when i got there, the doctor sent a nurse in prior to her seeing me and strapped me on a baby haeart monitor with a print out equipment and started monitoring the babys heartbeat. I was shocked and thought they had found something abnormal in my tests, but the nurse told me everything epwas just fine.
When the doctor came in, she too said that everything was fine, but that regardless i am considered a high risk patient for my age (41) and i can have a stillbirth at any moment. This being my 3rd pregnancy (i have an 8 and 6 natural births at a local hospital) did not know what a stillbirth was, so i asked and she went into great details as to how it happens to people that are full term and perfectly normal pregnancies. She was trying to convince me that just because of my age (my record is just perfect) i need to go twice a weektodo sonograms and heart monitoring etc. I do not intend to go back AT ALL, but im so upset with the incidence, especially cause thatninfo was not even in my realm of awareness!
I told what happened to my oldersister later on and she was in agreement with the doctor that i am "too old" and yada yada yada. I almost bursted into tears just thinking how i have "gone to Home Depot to buy fresh milk". Im so upset now i thought i needed support from a like-minded mothers who had gone this route before and the comfort of midwives who have taken care of healthy pregnant forty some women and also those who had experience with stillbirths. What other last minute out ofthe blue complications can arise with a otherwise healthy pregnancy? Thanks!
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