You know, when you cannot NOT push that baby out!!
There is a lot more to my stories, but I'll try to just stick with the part about pushing. With my first baby, I was so weary of the intense back labor and wanted to just be done. Yes, I was going all natural. The nurse told me to tell her when I thought I was ready to push, and it would feel like I kind of needed to have a bowel movement. Well, I was feeling a lot of pressure ( of course! ), and not knowing what the 'urge to push' really felt like, I told her I thought I was ready. They checked me, and I was a 10. They called the doctor and got everything ready, and I proceeded to push for 1 1/2 hours. It wasn't till those last few pushes, that I finally felt that urge to push. I was like, 'Oh, this is what I was supposed to wait for! It feels good, and my body actually WANTS to push!" I tore a little, and was VERY swollen and sore for a long time. It hurt to walk for several days. (by the way, I mostly fault myself for this!)
So when baby number two was on the way, I pretty much vowed that I would NOT push until I felt that urge to push. With the way the labor progressed, we all thought it was going to be quick, but I stalled out at 7 cm for 5-6 hours without much progress. Just pretty intense back labor, again. This time I was starting to get really weak, and I was losing my confidence that I could get through it (even though I knew I would). I finally got up off the birthing ball, and on the bed on my knees leaning over a stack of pillows. That's when, glory hallelujah, I got the urge to push!!! I was so relieved to know that I was just about done!! I asked if I could just push her out in the position I was already in. The nurse was nice and said I could if I had to, but it would be nicer (for them) if I could turn around and get in the position they like. I was feeling generous, so I obliged. :) Unfortunately, as soon as everyone was in position, the urge to push WENT AWAY! I was like, what??!! How does this happen?? I refused to push till it came back. After a while of this, the doctor suggested that I just try with the next contraction, and see what happened. Well, I did, and out she popped with ONE long push! I also had no swelling, no soreness, and and felt absolutely fantastic afterward!!!
This is my story behind my question, has anyone heard of having the urge to push going away like that?
My best guess is that it's because I changed positions, but why would that make it go away?
Thanks for your thoughts!