Just needed a little bit of support and encouragment I guess. I am currently 23 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child, however it's almost like my first all over again because this is my first time having a natural childbirth. My first son was induced and I had an epidural with my second son. On a side note I actually didn't know I was in labor with my second son. Since my first labor was induced I didn't know what it felt like to labor naturally. The night before he was born I started to have what I thought was an upset stomach, lol! I went to sleep that night, woke up the next morning with my "stomach ache" not knowing what was going on until I went to the bathroom and saw a toilet full of blood (sorry if that was too graphic). Anyway, I went to the hospital and by the time I got there I was 4 cm dilated and 90% effaced. At 7 cm I was given an epidural even though I told the nurses I was ok. I did NOT like the feeling of being medicated, not to mention the IV and process of getting the epidural. I knew there had to be a better way, so I began doing research. That's when I learned of the many benefits of natural childbirth. It never dawned on me before that I DO have options and I DO have a say in how my children are born.
But here is the problem, I would really love to have a midwife. That would be my dream! But unfortunately I live in a state where midwives cannot practice legally. I also wanted to get a doula but my husband was not on board for that. He feels like we can handle it on our own. We told our doctor on our last appointment that we intend to go natural. She took it pretty well. The only thing that bothered me is that she didn't want to look at our birth plan. Our hospital actually offers the option to have a water labor. They also provide birth balls and a squat bar for pushing, so that made me feel a little better. I guess I'm just a little apprehensive about having the support I need. I know my husband supports me, but he has yet to read any of the books I ordered. Oh, and I also wanted to take a Bradley class, but the closest one is 2 hours away in another city. Has anyone on here had a natural childbirth in a hospital, no midwife or doula? I know in my heart that I can do this. But sometimes those little what if's try to pop up into my mind. Any suggestions, support, and encouragement anyone has to offer is welcomed and much needed. Thanks!
UPDATE: I just want to say thanks to everyone for your responses. I almost got "suckered" into being induced on this Monday (which is my due date). I really didn't want to do it but then I started thinking that maybe it was for my baby's health. After a long talk with my husband he convinced me that it wasn't necessary and we should just stick to our plan and give our son more time. I'm happy to stick to my guns but I'm also a little disappointed about having to wait to hold my little one in my arms. As of my last dr's appointment yesterday I was only 2 cm. I"ll be 40 weeks Sunday and it just doesn't seem like I"m making any progress. I'm a bit discouraged and trying not to get depressed. I don't feel like I'm getting the proper encouragement from my husband either to keep going. Has anyone ever had to go past their due date to get the birth they wanted? Any words of advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated right now. Thanks for giving me an outlet to vent my frustrations.
UPDATE#2: Thanks once again to everyone who responded and offered their support and encouragement. I am SO very proud to say that I had my very first natural childbirth experience and I would not have had it any other way!! My little one was born on June 14th, a day after his due date. I actually went into labor around 11:30 PM the night before. I had a feeling I was in labor but I wasn't sure, so I played some Mahjongg until I got tired and then I went to bed and attempted to get some sleep. Throughout the night I was a bit uncomfortable so I didn't really sleep much. The next morning I noticed that my contractions went from being about 10 to 15 mins apart the night before to about 5 to 7 mins. I called my doctor's office and was advised to come in to get checked. When I got there she told me that I was at 3.5 cm and 40% effaced. She said that I could either go walk for a while and come back or I could go straight to labor and delivery. I think I was so excited at the idea of being in labor that I opted to go to labor and delivery. That was around 10:30 the morning of the 14th and my son was born at 11:00 that night!
I think what surprised me the most was that the pain wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Contractions with Pitocin hurt way worse! I had opted to have a water labor, so the nurses kept asking me "would you like to get in the tub now?", and each time I told them that I'd wait because I kept expecting the pain to get worse, but it never really did. What helped me the most was walking. I walked pretty much the whole time except for when I had to get on the EFM. Things didn't really get intense until about an hour and a half before I started pushing. The contractions REALLY started coming, but I wasn't checked the whole day so I didn't know how dilated I was. Right before I started pushing I went to the bathroom because I thought I had to do #2, and as it happened a nurse was passing by and heard me groaning in my room and came in to check on me as I was on the toilet. I told her that I felt like I needed to use it, and she told me to wait so she could check me. She had a feeling it was time to push, and sure enough when she checked me I was at 7 cm. It seemed that right after she checked me I got a really intense urge to push and she told me to go right ahead and she'd call the doctor in. From there everything is a blur, it happened so quickly. I got on the bed and pushed about 3 or 4 times and he was out! Another surprise was that the pushing wasn't painful. It just felt like I was constipated and taking a good dump :)
I also have to give the hospital staff kudos because they were very supportive of my natural birth. The nurses weren't pushy and I wasn't offered any drugs. They gave me my space to manage my pain the way I saw fit. It was truly a stress free experience, I loved it. And my husband did a WONDERFUL job. I couldn't have made it without him! So thanks again to everyone. I'm so glad I saw the Business of Being Born. It truly changed my outlook on what birth is all about.
My daughter had her third baby in the hospital (the second was a home birth). The practice that attended her second birth had stopped providing birth care. Both she and her husband prepared for the hospital setting. When she arrived in the hospital labor and delivery unit her husband asked for "a nurse that supports natural childbirth". He stated their preference clearly. I was there also. She had intermittent monitoring, no I.V., as was free to chose the positions she was most comfortable with. She was not given any medication and held her baby immediately after birth.
My daughter used the birth plan format that is online at www.mothersadvocate.org I believe that she gave a copy to her doctor and it was included in her records. When she went to the hospital she was well established in labor-- and had gone past her due date. Waiting for labor to begin on its own (after a couple episodes of false labor) was a bit trying but it was important for labor to start on its own.
Blessings, may you have a healthy natural birth!
I managed to have as natural of a birth in a hospital as I could with preeclampsia. I had to be induced with pitocin at 36 weeks due to the preeclampsia, but negotiated with my doctor to be off of the fetal monitor for 30 minutes of every hour in which I moved around, walked, used a birthing ball etc. When I started to go into transition, I went into the bathroom to vomit and asked if I could get into the shower and once the nurses said yes, I spent the rest of my labor to 10 centimeters in the shower (so no more monitoring for me). I would have pushed the baby out in the shower if the nurse hadn't literally dragged me back to the bed and made me wait for the doctor to push. I had no epidural, no pain med of any kind, and even though it wasn't my ideal "natural" birth, I was still really proud of myself for fighting to keep it as natural as possible in spite of my preeclampsia. I'm pregnant again and this time I am going to a midwife practice at a different hospital and I am really hoping to have the truly natural birth that I wanted last time. Anyway, I did it without a doula. I found reading Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth to be extremely helpful. Reading the labor stories in the first half of the book was very empowering, and the medical advice in the second half really built up my nerve to stand firm on what I wanted when I got to the hospital. It's an excellent read.
Thanks! Good luck to you and your family!
Get a Doula=)) they are Such a Help and in a hospital setting where you need more support they really come in handy=))
I have had two natural child births in hospital you can do it=)) My first labor was 38hours, my 2nd was an induction at 42 weeks and they used pit which caused hyper contraction (they said after the fact) my contraction where about or less then 30sec apart and more then 2min long it was a crazy birth. I had a 4th D cut but this was all caused by too much pit they made the baby heart rate go down and needed to get him out so they cut me. Try to go into labor on your own and stay at home as long as you can and get a doula is the best advice I think i could give=)
Best of Luck and Happy Birthing=))
Thanks so much for posting this discussion Dionne. I have found some of the info, such as suggested reading, very usefull and it has calmed my nerves big time.
Best of luck to you and be sure to let us all know how it goes.