My heart is just breaking this evening. Due to circumstances beyond my control I was unable to attend my very good friend's HBAC. We have been talking for over a year about me attending her birth, since before she was even pregnant! We have grown very close and I was so excited to be there to help her through this very important and very life-changing time in her life. Her first birth was a stressful, fear-filled and exhausting. I could picture in my heart and in my head what this next birth would be like, fully redeeming the experience of her first birth. I know that there was nothing that I could have done and that this birth was not about me. Those thoughts keep running through my mind and my heart. Yet, I still am upset and sad that I could not be the support that she was planning on.
The baby boy arrived safely and at home. I can't wait to hear the ENTIRE birth story and share in the excitement of this new life.
How do I share my heart with her without making it seem that I am focusing on myself? Should I even share my dissapointment that I was not there? What would you do in a doula/friend situation?