I was enjoying a Waldorf inspired play and snack time with friends from my son's school when the discussion took an odd turn. One of the Mom's is pregnant with her second child (I'll call her Pregnant Mom) and is feeling very nervous about facing labor again. With her first birth she thinks she had back labor and she spent over two hours pushing. There was a new Mom visiting with us(I'll call her Mom2) who has two kids and she got into the conversation by asking if Pregnant Mom had scheduled a c-section or was planning to induce. You can imagine how I felt about this comment. Then she proceeded to go on and on about how with the second baby it's just so much easier to schedule it all and how wonderful it was to have her mom know when to come. I had already spoken to Pregnant Mom about how much I loved giving birth and that part of me wanted to have a second child to experience it all again. I'd also shared some insights I gained from my wonderful birth teacher.
When Mom 2 found out I was a homebirther she was pretty wide eyed and just said wow...how was that for you? She was open to a little info, but then went right back into getting the epidural even though it was probably too late with the first baby and she just thinks scheduling is the way to go.
My question is when encountering someone so removed from the idea of a natural birth how do you all continue to share your experience without judgement. I always try to come from a place of compassion and love, but sometimes it's hard not to get frustrated.
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