Hey everyone! I'm 8 weeks pregnant and very excited. We've known we wanted a home birth from day one. My daughter is 8 and her birth was via c-section. There were so many elements of her birth that were upsetting and counter to what I envisioned and even what I requested. We've all got stories, so I don't need to recount mine.
My feeling, based on all the research I've done, that that I am a good candidate for a VBAC. My midwife agrees. Having 8 years for my low incision to heal reduces the risk even further.
Most of my friends and family are very supportive, but of course I finally ran into one who is not. She's a 60 year old labor and delivery nurse, who had a difficult birth of her own at the age of 40. She believes that she knows what can happen because of her profession, but she seems to forget that she works in a hospital where a great number of the clients are drug addicted and uninformed. Those two factors contribute to very different birth outcomes.
It's just so frustrating because now I'm bombarded with the same stuff every time I see her and she claims that she wants to email me as well. But her so called "facts" aren't really all that good. She doesn't ever know numbers and she claims that I can go to this hospital or that hospital and my birth will go exactly how I want it to. Funny, because all of the moms, midwives and doulas I know (and there are many) have told me about the hospitals in our area and it's never been great for natural births. The largest and most high tech facility actually made it a point to start interventions on a woman early in her labor (ignoring her birth plan that was there in her chart) because they knew her doula was on the way and they didn't want her to interfere. The husband actually overheard the nurses discussing it! (he just didn't have the nerve to stand up for his wife)
At any rate, I'm armed with my information and the support of a fantastic husband and many friends. I just get irritated at the fact that anyone would presume that they have the knowledge or authority to tell me how I should birth.
Anyone have thoughts or suggestions??? Experiences to share?? Thanks!