I was just wondering if you can help me?! I've got 6 weeks to go before baby #3 arrives with our second home waterbirth, but my doctor who will be attending the birth (my family physician, not an OB) is talking about internal exams and a pap smear over these last few weeks, which I do not want to have.
After having my first 2 children in the UK, no internal exams are done at all during pregnancy until you are in active labour and pap smears won't be done throughout pregnancy until the baby is at least 3 months old. I already had a smear test done at my 13 week appointment and don't see why I need another, and would really prefer my womanly baby-making bits to be left alone!!
I have an excellent relationship with my doctor, but is it ok for me here in the US to refuse what he wants to do?? After only 18 months over here I'm still quite unsure of how the medical system works!! The care he has given, time he has taken with me and support to meet my wishes so far has been great but I really don't want to risk damaging the trust I have in him so close to the baby arriving. I DO NOT want all that stuff doing. I know my baby will be here very soon, and I'm just fine with that. I have no need to know if I'm starting to dilate already or if the baby's head is engaged yet... it'll all happen when the baby's ready!!
Any help and advice on how to go about this is much appreciated!! Thanks ladies!!