My 5 year old daughter had only been around her dad of and on for about 3 years. She hasn't seen him now since Spring 2007 and never talked about him or seemed to care to want to. Some how this last year she started talking about him here and there, mostly during play time like going to daddy's house and such, but now she mentions him all the time. It gets to the point where sometimes when I tell her "no" about something she'll just default to "I want daddy, daddy will get me whatever I want." I never say anything when she does that except for "I just told you no and this is why yadda, yadda, yadda, and that's that" I never make it into an issue of daddy isn't around because..... The other thing is that when she does ask about why he's not around, I just tell her that he's got to take care of his mom and family just like I help take care of my mom and family, she seems to understand that for the moment until the next time something comes up.
I guess my question would be how other single moms have handled this. I know that it's part of growing up and they want to know where they come from, and who their other parent is, but I guess I'm just annoyed by it because I'd like for her to see him if that's what she wants. The problem is that now we live in different states, it's not good for her to be around him, she's better of not knowing what's going on, and so on. So if someone just has any advice on this issue of talking to their kids about the M.I.A. parent without making them into a jack ass, but also keeping it realistic that they aren't the best place for the child to be at. Thanks a lot!